Asking the Waves

I just returned from a lovely vacation with my family in Turtle Bay on the North Shore of Oahu. It's the same place I lead my retreats every year. On my last day I took my walk and watched this sunrise. Pictures never do anything the kind of justice they deserve. It...

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How to Rally

How to Rally

It wasn’t expected. You didn’t see it coming. It knocked you on your ass.   You need to sit for a minute. Take it in. Figure out if anything is really injured. Take notice of where it hurts. Understand the pain. Acknowledge it. See it. Feel it. Don’t hide from...

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If It’s Not a Hell-Yes… Move Along

If It’s Not a Hell-Yes… Move Along

We are over-committing and under delivering. It's so common and ingrained in our work and life that we don't even see it anymore. And we don't have anyone to hold accountable for that other than ourselves. Far too many yes's are being said each day. Too many inputs....

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Being in a Hurry

Being in a Hurry

When we're in a hurry. We miss stuff. Sometimes important stuff. We forget our keys. Leave our laptop behind... maybe a passport. Little things we'd never think we'd forget, get forgotten. Because when we tell ourselves to hurry, we only focus on the result we think...

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Becoming

Becoming

There's a huge difference between doing something and becoming someone. We get married, but we must become a partner. We have a baby, but we must become a parent. We build the business, but we must become a leader. Doing the thing... doesn't make us the thing.....

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Oops… Your Priorities are Showing!

Oops… Your Priorities are Showing!

Hey. I see you. I see how you say one thing and then do another. What you really want... what you really value... what your real priorities are... Are showing: - In the texts you do (or don't) respond to - In the phone calls you do (or don't) answer - In the meetings...

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What are You Hiding Under that Fear?

What are You Hiding Under that Fear?

What is hiding underneath your fear of changing? I've watched so many of my clients wrangle with their fear around change. So they stay in awful jobs. Work with awful people. They stay in horrible marriages. They are lonely, unhappy, joyless... And yet, they have this...

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Choosing Thoughts on Purpose

Choosing Thoughts on Purpose

Most of us believe what we believe unconsciously. We've believed what we believe for so long that we think out thoughts are the truth. This is all find and good, until we realize we believe thoughts that are hurtful. We believe we aren't good enough. We aren't happy...

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Practice Wanting

Practice Wanting

Practice wanting. Practice really feeeeeling what it would be like to have what you want. It can be anything... there are no rules. Except for one. Your wants are for you. Your behavior. Your experiences. Your emotions. Your things. It is wasted energy to want other...

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Perfect is a Judgement not an Outcome

Perfect is a Judgement not an Outcome

Perfection isn't real. It's a lie. It's a judgement. It's a story. But it isn't real. That doesn't mean it can't hurt or shame or embarrass. We all fail. We all make mistakes. We all forget. We all miss stuff. It's part of being human. There is no perfection. There is...

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